But a believer looks at him and sees an arrogant militant. Which supports my theory that many believers wish that atheists would just STFU.
You're onto something there, NC. I think many believers are lazy and want to believe what they believe without any resistance. They don't WANT to go and research. Instead of reading 100 hard books, they only want to read 1.
If athesists would just shut up, they could live with their beliefs in peace and not have to defend them. Well that's just not reality. It goes against their own book too. 1Peter 3:15 says: " Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect."
That should be a wake up call to Christians. They should be able to give an answer. They should also be able to do it with gentleness and respect. Sadly, many don't follow both or one of those things. They either CAN'T give an answer to why they believe what they believe. Or when they give an answer, they attack the other person. Especially when forced to deal with complex issues.